Losing weight is a “struggle” most people will face at some point in their lifetime. It’s at the top of every person’s New Year Resolutions list and it’s the subject of advertisements during every commercial break.
It begs the question: why do so many people find it so hard to lose weight and keep motivated?
As a society, we spend an enormous amount of money and time on weight loss. We pay a monthly membership to the gym and our personal trainers a fee per session to guide us through the gym. We pay a nutritionist to tell us what are the best foods to eat and then, we go to the grocery store to buy the foods that our nutritionist recommends. And, most times, all that money and time is spent in vain. Excuse after excuse allows us to justify not going to the gym or not eating the foods that we know will keep us healthy.
“I don’t have time. I’m way too busy. I don’t have the money. I can’t be bothered. There’s too much to do.”
Any of those sound familiar? How about “I’m not committed enough”?
A lack of commitment is the driving force for anything that’s left incomplete. And there’s a few key reasons for that. One key reason is really simple but not typically thought about: Our issues and insecurities serve us in some way.
You probably are thinking the idea of your poor self body image somehow granting you something other than self sabotage is ridiculous. And that’s true - it is ridiculous. But it doesn’t make it any less false.
Think about it for a second. What does your lack of commitment in going to the gym really give you? What do you gain by not getting healthy?
Maybe, by not getting rid of your body insecurities, you’re telling yourself that it’s okay if you don’t talk to that beautiful woman at the coffee shop. “I can’t talk to her…I don’t have enough confidence”. Using that thinking, by not going to the gym and getting healthy, you’re saving yourself from potential embarrassment. Seems a bit backwards, huh?
Maybe, by not going to the gym, you’re saying to yourself that you’re saving money that you can use for something that you think you do want. “A membership to the gym is too expensive. I can use that money to buy something else.” Same idea.
So now that you know that, in some way, your insecurities are serving you, let’s think about how we can change that. Taking the two examples above, let’s switch perspectives.
By not going to the gym (and subsequently, not talking to that woman at the coffee shop) what do you lose? By not getting healthy, and not spending the money needed to do so, what do you lose?
Awareness precedes change and as soon as you’re aware of something, you’re more inclined to do something about it. Once you’re aware that your loneliness and longing for a partner could be because your body insecurities, and you’re fed up with showing up to work functions without your +1, you’ll be way more inclined to head to the gym.
So that’s step one, becoming aware of your insecurities, how they serve you, and what you will lose by not overcoming them. Step two is all about your will power!
Having great will power is the key to success. It’s the force that drives you to do the extra rep in the weights room. It’s beyond powerful. But just like anything else, will power is a muscle that needs to be exercised. Great will power is the key to having a successful workout, and a successful lifestyle change.
To help you out, and make having a healthy lifestyle, here’s a list of 5 ways you can have great success in the gym and the kitchen.
- Prepare Everything - Create a schedule. What days are you going to train? When will you go grocery shopping? How long will each workout be and what will you do during them? By creating a schedule, and putting it somewhere you can see constantly, it’ll engrain into your subconscious.
- Invision What You Want - Everything we do is just a matter of something we’ve seen. We draw inspiration from everything that we’ve encountered. Keep in your mind exactly what you want. When you’re at the gym, imagine yourself doing one more set. When you’re grocery shopping, imagine yourself making smart food decisions.
- Work In Pairs of Two - Have someone keep you accountable. Make a friend pick you up to go to the gym. Keep people who inspires (or intimidates) you around for motivation.
- Work on What’s Weakest - What needs the most attention? It may be your diet. It may be your program at the gym. Whatever is is, keep in mind the weakest link and put the focus on that - at least for a little while.
- Food for Days - Prepare your food before hand! When you’re struggling to decide on what to eat, it’s a lifesaver to have something in the fridge that’s ready to pop onto the stove or into the oven! (If you’re really desperate for time, you can even zap it in the microwave). Spend an hour or two on Sunday night creating dinners for the next week. That way, you’ll always have healthy and prepared meal options for you to eat!
Getting healthy is not something that happens overnight. It’s a process that takes time. It’s a lifestyle change. Keep your mind in gear, keep your body engaged, and keep your spirits high and there’s nothing that can’t be accomplished!